Teatime with Elsa - Episode 104

Chatting about: Counter offers or ‘no’ answers…

In this episode I talk about the differences between counter-offers and "no" answers. In Freedom Based Training™ the horse has the freedom to decide how they want to respond to our actions. Saying "no" using fight or flight does not feel good for the horse or the relationship. Counter-offers allow the horse to say "no" to something they don’t want to do and suggest something they would prefer to do, while keeping the peace and connection. We aim to nurture our horse’s emotional maturity to the point that they are able to respond with a counter-offer, in ways that feel good to the horse and the relationship, rather than react with fight or flight.

Originally aired on: August 3rd, 2021